Writing this blog has proved rather a cathartic process. The more I think about it the more I realise that keeping things a total secret from my partner is a bad idea. I guess the trick is to work into it slowly, start off with a simple admission such as I find her legs attractive in tights. Perhaps ask her to wear them for me, or to wear different styles. I think telling her that Id love to be kept as a gimp under the stairs is out, but a few steps in the right direction is a must.